The times we are in, have got to be one of the hardest I’ve ever seen and it doesn’t seem to get any better. One must wonder why…
What would it cost to be vulnerable?
How vulnerable is too vulnerable?
With all of these questions swimming through our heads, we must see now just how rotten the world has become.
Oops… I meant humans. (Smiles tiredly)
I lay on my bed as I write this. Completely exhausted from work, longing for a hot bath and a well satisfying massage. If only wishes were horses…
I haven’t lived too long on this earth though, I’m gradually reaching my middle twenties but, it seems the word ‘vulnerable’ has become almost defunct in our individual lives.
Who did we offend? Shakes head.
How did we become this cold? Me inclusive.
I started off with looking up the word “Vulnerable” to be sure of what I do in my daily interactions with others. To really see for myself if I’m being vulnerable enough to create a safe environment for others or if it will back fire.
Sadly, half of the time, they ain’t even vulnerable enough to see it. It’s all messed up down here.
In Nigeria, the slang word that is used in place of it is, “see finish”. Oh, how I detest that word. No one wants to be seen finish and yes, I get it. I may not completely know what you have been through but, trust me when I say that I understand because I have my experience too from it.
We walk in circles when we don’t let ourselves be vulnerable in our relationships. Now, some may say ‘well… You haven’t seen sh#t so, shut up!”
Okay. Okay. (Hands raised in surrender) I can shut up but, (shrugs) to what end?
I see people walking on eggshells in friendships, relationships and family too and somehow, it’s normal? No, it isn’t and there’s no one to blame too. Why? Because collectively, we’ve all played a part in why it’s that way.
Being vulnerable takes a lot of courage, strength and trust. Now, the only problem is, we don’t know what people are thinking. As scary as this sounds, some people are currently doing this and they are reaping the good from it.
Does this mean the people courageously doing it don’t get scared? No, they do. But, the pro has only outweighed the con in such a relationship.
Now, I’m not saying you should go be vulnerable to every Tom, Dick and Harry. No, because that would only get you hurt. Rather, be able to discern.
Be able to discern who is worth your vulnerability while making sure the energy is being reciprocated and not one-sided.
No one said it’s going to be easy but, you must try.
Many happy relationships are still here because of teamwork and commitment towards one another plus waking up each day and being their vulnerable self.
Being vulnerable doesn’t mean you are weak. It doesn’t show ineptitude. It doesn’t make you small. No.
Rather, it shows that you are brave. It shows that you are human. It shows you are emotionally sound and empathetic. May I say, you are the bigger person when you show vulnerability knowing fully well just how desperately wicked humans are.
I could go on and on about the con’s of being vulnerable which would only negate the true intentions behind this post. So, I shall stop here for now hoping you take a thing or two from it.
And I hope we get to be vulnerable to the right people and for the right reasons.
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