I may not have been here for too long but, I know that there is nothing better or more healthier and sane than a person who decides to go on the journey of working on himself/herslf to become a better person.
Now, I know that many would say, “hey! I’m already a better person”. “come on! I know about this already” or “I’m already working on myself “.
If you are working on yourself now towards positivity then you are on the right track. But, you should also know that many aren’t working on themselves for good but instead are dangerously edging towards negativity and thinking that they are; without a moment pause to see what or who they are hurting.
Now, this is where I come in.
Sometimes, we can get so overwhelmed with the thought of working on ourselves that we lose sight of what is really in front of us. Some, develop pride and get so full of themselves and still call it self love. Some become distant and family members and friends won’t hear from them anymore. Some become incessantly annoying and controlling thereby losing the beauty and what it truly means to work on oneself.
They probably don’t see this and even when told, you automatically become a hater. They don’t see the toxicity around them but can clearly see it in others. Eventually, they get into relationships and before someone says Jack, they are out of it. When asked what happened, you hear them say things like, “he was way too toxic, I couldn’t handle it” or “she has alot of bad energy and baggage and her toxicity is crazy”.
Do you think that you are a saint?
Do you think you don’t have any toxic trait?
Do you think it’s only you that people do wrong to and you don’t hurt them?
Seriously, we need to do better than heaping blames on people and calling them toxic, when you clearly have yours.
We’ve only got one life to live and not two. So, how about we start reevaluating our lives and checking ourselves… huh?
Making the most of our time by being around people who will bring out the best in us. Many get so money crazed all in the name of working on themselve and end up plunging themselves into depression which eventually leads to suicide.
Forgetting the little things that matter…
Seeing all of these negativity, why not choose to work positively on yourself and at the same time making sure you don’t derail.
If you are not sure of how to start, I would like to say that you should start with first, being honest enough to admit to yourself that you’ve got some toxic traits too. Give yourself a breather and back away from the negativity around you then begin to evaluate yourself and life choices. Ask for help too. Don’t ever think you are too awesome or too big to ask for help. You’d be surprise who will actually stick out their neck to help.
The world is always changing and everyday new stories are told. Take up that book now and read. Who knows? You’d probably end up writing one.🤔
Drop every sense of entitlement in you that you may have towards people, including family, lover and friends. Don’t ever think that because you are familiar or related to them then, they must do this or that for you.
No, no, no, no! Don’t think that way.
Remember, you weren’t there when they were building their lives and even if you were there, it doesn’t give you any right to feel entitled to what they have. They don’t owe you and you don’t owe them.
Have you seen the seven wonders of the world? 😂😂😂 I mean for real?
You may need to get that travel bag, a passport, good kicks and ‘au revoir…😂😂
Talk about having a good health, eating right and exercising as much as you can. #FitFamActivated.
Listen to good music and believe me, it never gets old. It will help in healing you.
Take some time to meditate and seek who or whatever that you believe in.
Last but not the least, spend time with people who encourages and supports you to be better than you were yesterday. Who knows? You might find the person to walk down the aisle with in your journey of becoming a better you.
A little note from me…
I know that I’ve got some toxic traits. I know that there are days you don’t want to be around me and sometimes, you probably even hate me because of these toxic traits. But believe me when, I tell you that accepting I have one and not just every other person out there is a big step for me.
Would you believe me If I told you that I’m working on it. I’m working on being a better person and trust me it hasn’t been easy. Yes, it is not but I’m doing it anyways for my own sanity and others too.
PS: Work on yourself and enjoy the benefits that come with it. Don’t think you don’t have any and don’t go judging others without taking the plank out of your eyes first. (Matthew 7:5)
This wallflower can only but, write and hope it gets out someday….